I put in at the end an "answer" section, correcting the giving advice/help assertions and the assertion about "never talking about the past" as a rule.  Go to the bottom.

The articles were posted with the latest at the top, so you'd start from the last one down that you haven't read and read them in that order.  But I've switched them around to organize it under category.  This means you'll have to keep track of what you reas.

I believe all of these are very relevant to you AND I would especially recommend you read the Thinking section.

Also, thank you for your feedback.  I will always look at it and adjust for it, to the best of my ability.

You had a question of what to learn in what order:  What To Learn And In What Order To Create And Have A Great Life.

A possible perspective piece that is more of a summary overview, that could be used for an introduction for a book:  Life Overview - Do This And You'll Have A Great Life! 

Keys to life:

Your Path Is Your Only Attainable Path Under The Circumstances - And There Is No Fault In You!

Living Based On "Continuous Paths", That We Continue Taking... - Results in a significant increase in life progress. 


I Have ADHD, And That Means...

Am I Truly F***ed Up?  What Am I Really Trying To Do Here?   

Bad Self Or Poor Strategy?  It Is A "Not Yet Knowing", Not A Flaw In Oneself


Getting Rid Of The ANTs - Becoming A" Terroist"- Finish it off for good and for all time!

Learning life

The Short Course In Life Via Books - A short list of what to read to get squared away.

    Building Self-Esteem Video, Barksdale


Go to my YouTube channel (KahunaKeith, no spaces), watch the 3 to 6 minute videos in the playlist Critical Thinking, THE Way To A Great Life - Quick Learning Modules.  Practice following these as best you can, but tickle it to be reviewed every month until you have mastered the correction of all of your significant beliefs.

Learning Deficits

Are You A "Life" Dilettante Who Is Missing Some Of The Essential Blocks Of Knowledge? - It's a problem of method, not a fault.

I Have ADHD And That Means... - Stuck?

The Low Attention Span - And The Effects Of Increasing It


Managing One's Logistical "Problems" - Stepping Back And Using Systems

When upset

Restoring Emotional Balance - When Humans Go Into A Self-Reinforcing Spiral

Note:  Communications before this, including one on 6/13, are on Barbara's Contents/Links page

Current answers:  My answer is in brackets:

I find the majority of your writings helpful....tho some like never referring to your past seems a bit "over the top" [the actual thing that was said "You will never speak of it again unless it is for a progressive, positive purpose" in The Past And Now piece.]

.....there would be few interesting speakers at al-anon if they did not share what life was like before/after..... And other things such as lifting up for someone (you) that giving alot without payback is the breeding ground for resentment --- this is not taking care of another...this is just a trying to stay tuned in to the relationship and its dynamics, it is being sensitive to the other.....there is this rigidity in the way you view things...spmetimes almost no gray [Actually said:  Giving Advice And Help]
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Organization - Easy way!  Very simple, straightforward, 21 days of short videos, free.
"Video Boot Camp"

Consider these two resources that should work better for you - and even a coaching approach that you might like.  Program

5% Of Time On Problems, 95% On Solutions - Watch Your Life Take Off! - You are not "at fault" here.  You only need to use a more workable strategy!

You might like this approach, which is very straightforward:
Life Changing Exercise (downloadable for free from

See this TED video:  Positive Psychology Expert.

M. Scott Peck, in A Road Less Traveled:  After saying that life is difficult, he proceeds to explain how life is not difficult if you accept its 'difficulty', he writes:  "Most do not fully see this truth.  Instead they moan more or less incessantly, noisily or subtly, about the enormity of their problems, their burdens, and their difficulties as if life were generally easy, as if life should be easy.  They voice their belief, noisily or subtly, that their difficulties represent a unique kind of affliction that should not be and that has somehow been especially visited upon them, or else upon their families, their tribe, their class, their nation, their race or even their species, and not upon others."

Life not really difficult IF you do the difficult work (the hard work, which doesn't really have to be difficult if you don't resist it!!!).

If you're using this at all, email me to let me know.  Otherwise, of course, I'll forget it.